Talking Out Of School

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Your child may be amongst the smartest or best looking in the room, but can they communicate their ideas and thoughts confidently and purposefully?

As teenagers increasingly rely on texting and social media for communication, they struggle to develop confidence and effectiveness in face-to-face communication.

Parents typically reinforce self-esteem through grades, academic performance, or extracurricular achievements. However, these measures only allow students to temporarily and superficially stand out from their peers.

It’s one thing for your child to achieve good grades or excel in sports, but can they initiate and maintain conversations with teachers, strangers, or employers? Do they know how to advocate for their wants and needs? Are they developing the skills to be dynamic presenters and public speakers?

Several years ago, I participated in a panel discussion at Babson, presenting to over 60 students studying business and entrepreneurship. These students could have told me everything I needed to know about finance, business plans, or marketing. I asked them who felt confident as an effective speaker, and the majority of the room went quiet.

The funny thing is that kids who aspire to be entertainers, actors, or broadcasters are often mocked due to the low number of them who achieve real success. In reality, these kids are ahead of the curve because most of them learn the importance of presenting themselves effectively.

Interpersonal skills also play a significant role in high school extracurricular activities. Students are more inclined to participate, succeed, and stay involved in various clubs or activities if they have the confidence and skills to connect with their peers.

Parents invest time and resources to help their kids get into the college of their dreams, yet often neglect to do the same to ensure they are set up for success once they start college.

Simple things like smiling regularly, responding to and interpreting body language, and speaking clearly with emotion are fundamental skills that kids need if they want to be heard and recognized.

Parents don’t typically identify communication skills as a primary barometer for success. However, imagine how proud you would feel if someone walked up to you, beaming with admiration, to share how impressed they were with your child’s ability to talk, engage, and listen–much like you would brag about your kids’ grades or athletic accomplishments.

Think about the investment you make in high school; it pales in comparison to the financial commitment of college. It is crucial for students to develop strong conversation and interview skills, network effectively, and differentiate themselves from their peers.

Getting into the college of their dreams is the start. It’s essential for your child to head to college equipped with the confidence and skills needed to maximize your investment and pave the way for their personal and professional success.

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