It seems an awful lot of advice is coming through on what our habits we need to stop or start as this New Year begins. I don’t know about you, but I know what I need to change! So, while I reckon with that, how about we talk about HOW to change the habits or bring behaviors you want in your life?
First? You’ll have to know your WHY. Why do you want change? What do you aspire to do? What is it that would impact your happiness? What have you tried to do and how has it worked for you? Imagine the possibilities.
Second, it’s time to consider the cost of NOT making a change. If you do nothing today, what happens tomorrow? Nothing. We call that your Default Future. That doesn’t take much imagination.
Third drill down to the behavior that is at the heart of the matter. Is it how you currently feel about your body? Is it that you don’t want to change what you eat? Is it how someone made you feel when you were younger about what you can and cannot accomplish? Maybe it’s time to decide to shed those fears and embrace what you’ll have if you are more fit, or you let go of old recipes that aren’t serving you.
Most importantly, find a mentor or a partner to help and inspire you. Everyone around you is used to who you are, the way you look and the way you act, and tell you they love you just the way you are. If you want to be different and you want to stick to your plan, don’t go it alone. There are lots of people just like you who have struggled. Lots of people who are fit that will reach back and share advice. They know how good it feels to take charge! If you want to start but don’t know where, if you know where, but need help staying the course, maybe you need an accountability partner. Find a qualified coach or mentor—they’ll listen, keep you focused, hold you to your goals. Your job is to be coach-able and listen. Then keep your future self in mind and hold on for the ride! Anything worth its salt is going to be hard work, but SO worth it!